Who is Marrying These Hoes?

Who is marrying these hoes? This is one of those views that is for the most part from the outside looking in. Some research. but not much personal experience. Time and time again the women in my generations bring up something they will do when they are married. More often than not someone will always say something to the effect of "your body count mad high and you're talking about marriage" or "You cant even keep a man but you talking about marriage." Well I am here to say "cool it, and sekkle down." For one, men do not always check for a woman with morals. I hate to bash (well no I dont)but you cant beef about not being able to find women with body counts lower than 5 if you dont give good girls a chance.I have heard many men say they will not deal with a virgin. Those same men want low body counts. What is the joke? I am blaming you for being a hypocrite and not respecting morals when it is essentially what you want your queen to have. We cannot compare this generation to the generations before us and if you are not entertaining the women who are up-keeping certain standards, you should not complain about what you get. Our generation has way more sex because as humans we have needs and unlike our great grand parents who found love at 19, we want to get our lives together, build careers and essentially build who we are before we decided to spend our lives with someone else. On that journey, both genders will have their needs met in this silly game we call talking, cuffing or whatever the hell else. This thing were guys get sex because they dont neccesarily require as much affection and they will settle for meanless affection; and women will practice their jedi tricks (@mike_2pt0's theory) to be able to feed their need to be loved and cared for. Why do I bring this up? Because this is what is happening at the time that we are essentially supposed to be getting married (if we followed the stone age) so how can we hold women at the same standards now that we did before?

Just food for thought, think about the basic things men are known to like (I am sure there is a level of inaccuracy, I've never been a man)

A woman who satisfies him sexually and does it well: You enjoy when a woman does all the right things in the bedroom and actively make fun of women who have no idea what they are doing. Well, practice makes perfect (not to say that all sex goddesses have had a lot of practice)but realize that in order to prepare to please you best she can either watch porn and try it (which is not easy for everyone as for as self esteem goes) or do what a large amount of women have done; Practice until they get it right, sometimes on men that were just practice. All I'm saying is I've heard too many men say they wouldn't date a virgin or a girl who didn't give head because she wouldn't know what she was doing and they don't have time for that.Especially when the job can get done by someone who is skilled and willing.Go ahead, rule out the women with moral standards then complain about all women being hoes -_-

A woman who already knows how to be in a relationship: Does all the right things, doesnt annoy you, doesnt ask for too much, cant be easily walked over and all of the components of a compatable commitment. How can she do this without having had a few bad relationships? Why wouldnt you want to guide her in the right path as opposed to finding someone who already has those qualities?

My point is, at the time when marriage was more common we cant only look at what women are doing differently but also, what were the men doing differently?

I am not debating you on your preferences (even though I feel like if you have never had a GF/BF and are actively looking for one while you constantly talk about what women/men need to do to be girlfriend/wife/boyfriend/wife material, I do not trust your opinion. Why cant you find a girl/guy? what are YOU doing wrong? why aren't the type of people YOU like checking for YOU????) I am just asking you what you are doing to support having those preferences be available? Are you ruling out the man who cant hit it right for the one that been piping everything in your building? Are you ruling out the girl who doesn't feel comfortable giving head for the girl you wont ever be with that lies about her bodies?

In the end, when you settle down and she is done with her "hoe phase" ... you will be the one marrying these hoes. Or you can be that guy in supermarket shopping for one if you continue to encourage exactly what you don't want.

Note: As judgmental as this may seem on surface please do not take it as that way and take it for the idea that is.

What’s My Name
Well, my name is Simone. I’ve been obsessed with names that define me since I could remember. This past Weekend I took on the name “Simoncè” a play on my name, using Beyonce, who to me is the ultimate diva. I won’t say I carried myself as well as she does but when I’m Simoncè I feel like I’m all that and a back of kettle cooked chips.

I’ve actually taken on quite a few names in my day. A lot of people call me “Simoni” (sim-own-ee). Something I don’t like being called but here’s the story behind that name: in middle school I decided that when I got to high school and the teachers called my name on the attendance, I would correct their pronunciation and tell them its sih- mon-ee. That way ppl would pronounce my name that way. At that time I was into the whole getting dressed up, wearing heels everyday in any weather, get my hair/nails done often phase that i referred to as being a diva. I didn’t think Simone was diva-like enough to represent me. By the time the name stuck, it was and still is mispronounced by people who refused to stop calling me that or correct their pronunciation I know, you wondering why it’s still my name on all of my networks, right? Because I am still her, I am sih-mon-ee Nicole but if you are going to call me that, at least pronounce it properly. Also, I’m still from the old school where I limit the idea of putting my name all over the Internet.

The nickname: it actually took quite some time to arrive at “monie” being my nickname. I got it from BET’s cartoon “Hey Monie” a show I never watched but happened to know that the main character’s name was Simone. Before that I called myself Keisha, Precious Medley, Sim, Lady S, Sim Simma and for some time I even called myself Mo-Mo.

It’s interesting, having a name …. U know? Like we take our name for granted but our name is what represents us. It’s the first thing people who don’t know us hear or see about us. I like my name, now though. I think it represents me. Simone, so simple. Not an outlandish name… Other people have it but it’s not common. It’s pretty and sweet. I love being Simone.