Sunday, November 21, 2010

From the lips of the Ambiguous Girl




When Big Sean's mix tape first dropped a couple of my friends told me I should listen to "Ambiguous Girl" some told me that jokingly but a male friend of mine thought it was important for me to hear it. I laughed it off of course, no biggie.

Here I go again with another post that makes me feel oblivious to real life. I always found guys more easy to make friends (or person of that nature) with. Men are more approachable than females. While females always seem to think there's some ulterior motive in you trying to be social with them men welcome it, from almost anyone.

So how exactly should I approach a man I think may make a good friend (or person of that nature)? In my experience smiling is flirting, conversation/hanging out means you like said man, and going to a persons dorm to hang out means that you want to have sex. There have been too many times when I have found men who I think are cool and just want to befriend them then they end up asking me for a date and treat the word "friend" like an insult.

Men and women will never live in the same world, nor will we ever understand each other but there are a lot of other women out there who (like me) aren't hip. If you say you want to chill then I don't expect you to subtly place your hand on my leg. Men often find themselves upset when women try to read into their actions/words but if men don't stop talking in code then what do they expect?

When someone invite ME to watch a movie, I expect a movie and maybe some popcorn,sex a factor in the equation. If someone invites ME to chill I better get some conversation, thats what chilling is about.

We're all young adults/adults Let start saying what we mean. Chances are if she's interested, she'll be "down" no matter how you approach it, stop making the lives of people like me who are just friendly so difficult ;)

1 comment:

  1. I could not have said it better myself... Apparently men and women will never really be "friends" mutually because guys almost always have that ulterior motive of getting more out of said female... I was told this by a man. I don't understand why if it's just sex a guy wants why he will wine, dine, and entertain a female that he just wants to sleep with... I say cut all that sweet stuff out and if you want sex say so. Yes a female may get mad at first at the honesty but I personally respect a man that can tell me he just wants sex. It won't get him anywhere but I do respect it

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